Struggling with program

[sarahsean]

I bought your program about a month ago and I am struggling a little with it. My fear is of traffic and roundabouts.

I have read all the program and i found it excellent however I find it hard to put into practise. I have found the red sock technique very useful and also have found the new audio content you recently released very useful however as soon as i get out there practising and come to my area of difficulty i forget everything i have read it all goes out of my head, i grip the wheel tightly, all the fear comes back and all your excellent advise vanishes out of my head.

I am also struggling to understand how ROAD works. How can i concentrate on driving and intensify my fear?

Any suggestions as to how i can get past the panic would be useful.

Thanking you for your time
Sarah McCann

[Rich-Admin]

You have to remember in those moments that the fear doesn't "come" back...YOU BRING it back.

Fear isn't a THING. It's a response we create to our thoughts.

So you have to think about what it is your fear really does to you. Not what you THINK it MAY do...but what it has actually done.

Then if you get a thought that it will make you lose control..let it. If you think it will make you drive off a bridge...let it. It's an illusion anyway, fear doesn't hurt you, it's just uncomfortable.

To stop your struggle....stop struggling. You don't have an "area of difficulty", the sky overhead is no different, and YOU haven't changed. The only thing is what you say to yourself and then how you respond to those thoughts.

[sarahsean]

Thank you for your reply. Right so the next time i am out all i have to think of is this fear is not real it is all in my head. Sounds good written down here in practise not so easy. I will post again the next time I have been out and let all know how i get on.
Sarah

[teaser]

Hi Sarah - Don't worry about struggling - I'm pretty sure everyone here at one point has struggled. Also - I'm not sure you want to say to yourself "it's all in my head." That would frustrate me even more. You actually have to face the fear. If you are at a stoplight and you are freaking out because you think you may take your foot off the pedal.... tell your foot to do that... I'm guessing you are not going to do that. Why is that you think?

[sarahsean]

I suppose because i know i can`t i have to keep going, it isn`t going to happen. Well at the moment it is easy to write that and say that but doing it is so much harder. As for not saying it is in my head may be if i repeat it to myself it will help me because at the moment goodness knows what else i can do. May be if i do a bit of an Obama and say yes i can to myself over and over then it will help.
Sarah

[Rich-Admin]

repeating what you don't believe is a losing battle...affirmations with nothing behind them aren't effective. Work on KNOWING that's it's true.

Look, you know your foot isn't going to go crazy like in the Nutty Professor movie or something. Anxiety and loss of control have nothing to do with one another. Don't take my word for it...look at YOUR life experience...what has EVER happened? You're afriad of those feelings and they're tricking you, that's IT.

[sarahsean]

Thank you for your reply i know you are a busy man what with this program and your family. Your little boy is gorgeous by the way. Well my next trip out is tomorrow as I have to take my kids swimming in town plenty of traffic there. I know what you are saying is right so have to take it from there and believe it.
Will post again at the weekend and let all know how things are getting on.
Thank you again for taking the time to reply it means a lot as no one else really understands how difficult this is for me.
Sarah