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olivmich
07-31-2009, 10:44 PM
I bought the Fear of Driving Program a few months ago. I read through it all and listened to all of the sessions on CD. But it took me until about a month ago to really get serious and start using the program. I have to admit that I'm doing much better than I thought I would. My fear is driving on the highway. I haven't done it alone in about 4 years and it's been about 2 years since I've driven with an adult passenger.

I've reached the point where I now get out and practice on the highway several times a week with my husband. I've even driven 25 miles on the highway and back again! That's something that I totally didn't think I'd ever be able to do again. I still get nervous and it's not really that comfortable, but I'm doing it which is a big step.

The real problem that I'm still having is with doing it alone. I'm petrified to take that step. I did try it once about a week ago and drove for one exit with my daughters in the car. I used my breathing and ROAD technique and was really, really nervous. But I did it, which made me proud of myself. However, I've yet to bring myself to do it again alone and just the thought of it makes me anxious.

I know that the thought popping technique will probably be really helpful for me but I'm having a tough time with it. I find it hard to sit still for 20 minutes and pop back and forth with my thoughts. When I "pop" to my scary thought, it doesn't make me that anxious. Any advice for how to better utilize the thought popping and how to get past the anticipatory fear that I have about getting on the highway and practicing alone?

Thanks!!

Rich-Admin
08-03-2009, 08:42 PM
20 minutes is tough to start with....start with 5 minutes and work up! Baby steps!

Rich

olivmich
08-03-2009, 09:35 PM
Okay....I thought I was supposed to jump right in with the 20 minutes a day (I take things literally when I read them!) Will start with 5 and go from there.

I drove on the highway for one exit today alone! I love this program, Rich. I can honestly say that this is the first thing that I've tried that I can feel in my gut is going to be helpful for me. I feel like I'm getting my life back. Thank you!

Rich-Admin
08-07-2009, 02:27 AM
Truly my pleasure.