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christiffa
09-22-2009, 05:00 PM
Hi Everyone.

Never posted on a forum before but i thought this and found this after reading very likeminded

im a 24 yr old uk based lad, outgoing,university background behind me..but i really need to get this sorted.

after passing my test in 2007 i have very rarely driven. hand on heart i am just basically scared of driving. Its so strange . I hate it i hate teh feeling.

when i passed i didnt mind driving but that has slowly dwindled with 4/5 months in between each drive. For example the last time i drove my motor was may.

Before i questione my driving. What happens if i do that. what happens there. what do i have to do on that bit of the road? These thoughst race through my mind so fast all the time.

when i do drive i drive by remebering what to do where..if i go anywhere new i have no idea. When driving im convinced im doing something wrong, other drivers or lookling and laughing at me and getting angry at me. I hate it when they beep. And all the time the fear is there..always the fear. When i have finished...what is always a short journey. cos ive never driven further than 30 miles i am emotionally shattered.

Another thing i am convinced i am going to be in..cause a accident. I am drawn to them. If there is something about a car accident on the news or in the paper i HAVE to look and read it and convinced it is goin ti happen to me. I have no idea why i do this but it adds to my fear.

When driving with someone else..i wont say im fine but im alot better if there is a passenger. Although i am always asking them. Did i do that right. are they getting mad behhind me?
When on my own...well there just isnt a on my own...like other i have red, i avoid it at all costs. I wont even drive 5 mins to football training or what not. And it doesnt help that i live on a awful hill which is terrible for parking.


I am so sorry to ramble.. i jsut wanted to share my expereinces. I just want to get this whole thing started to get sorted. I want to be a grown up and get driving. I want to be able to do it without thinking. i get envious of my mates who just get in a drive..and most of all i want to get my job prospects sorted. There are so many good jobs i have turned down (after passing the interview and beeing offered) becos i am to scared to drive 45 minutes . The worst of which happened on the morning i was ment to start.

In my family only my sister drives.

Bascially i just want some help,advice, anything really

I hate this it makes me scared, it makes me angry and frusrated but most of all without trying to gain sympthay it makesme lonely

sorry for rambling and thanks for reading

Chris

ecpdba
09-23-2009, 05:39 AM
christiffa,

First it is great to hear from new people, I am glad you joined the board.
Second, I would start by learning as much as you can about your fears to try and understand what you are experiencing. Understanding and then acting are very important next steps. A great way to get started is by purchasing the Driving Fear Program by Rich Presta here - www.drivingfear.com.

Hang in there and keep posting!


Frank

Rich Presta
09-25-2009, 12:34 AM
Welcome!

Maybe check out the free reports and posts I have over on my blog at www.RichPresta.com

christiffa
10-05-2009, 12:08 PM
Hi Rich,

Looking at buying the standard version.

Just a quick question. Do i get a actual hard copy of the manual ?

thanks

chris

Rich Presta
10-10-2009, 10:57 PM
Up to you, it's offered as both a download and physical program...whatever suits you.
Rich