Could use some encouragement

[teaser]

Hi everyone - I haven't been on here in quite a while. I have been a long time member of Fear of Driving, so to speak. Maybe some will remember that I have a general anxiety along with the fear of driving. I haven't had a panic attack in years, but anxiety still hangs around every once in a while. I've gotten really good at being able to relax and things have been going well. My children are happier, husband is happier, I am happier.

except - highway driving ... this has been a constant struggle for me. So... my father is dying and my family wants me to come... 150 miles away. I really want to leave tomorrow at noon with my girls. I can wait for my husband to finish work, but that is causing a whole bunch of other difficulties.

I made myself today go out and do the freeway - which I did... from city limit to city limit (not a big town... but whatever)

I don't know - just could use some good words, ideas that may help along with what I already am doing. It would be a HUGE accomplishment for me. I used to drive this ALL THE TIME and it totally bums me out that I can't do this.

On top of all that - I've cut my smoking in 1/2 in anticipation of quitting and I do not allow myself to smoke in the car (which oddly has been quite easy - I didn't think my car would start without me smoking... LOL)

sighhhhh

Thanks in advance.

teaser

[emma2049]

Hi Teaser!

Well, you do have a lot going on right now, don't you? I'm so sorry you are having to deal with such sadness whilst setting yourself some rather intimidating goals.

First off - you know you can drive. That's a start. But I do feel that putting the stress on yourself to visit your father, when you are dealing with a lot of feelings that can trigger classic anxiety issues is almost too much pressure to put on yourself. Is there anyone else who can drive you and your girls this time? I'm not telling you not to do it - I mean, I think you were looking for someone to affirm that it's possible for you to do this. Of course it is. Just treat yourself gently. Only you know yourself and what is comfortable for you. I know for me, it wouldn't be a great time to try and force myself to do this.

Secondly, the cutting down on smoking. I get it! In fact, I am really supposed to be quitting too, right now - but I feel that it needs 100% of my full attention and priority. So does overcoming my driving fear. I am just starting back out after 7 years of not driving at all, so I am being fairly gentle with myself. I applaud you, I really do. You will do it! You don't need to be a smoker to deal with all your anxiety problems. I don't either! That's a whole other forum, LOL!

I wish you luck, and will check back often to see if we can talk again. Be strong - I'll be thinking of you and your father.