franklin
11-01-2008, 06:18 AM
Hi Rich,
I've been severely annoyed by my "fear" of driving, and was Googling for some info on being a better driver, and came accross this forum and your course. I'm very interested in buying your program, but before that, I have a question that I would like to ask you, just to make sure if the program is right for me.
Having read many articles about fear of driving, I feel that most people fear it really because they fear it, in a more psychological way. However, somehow I feel that mine is a little different. Yes, I do fear driving, but that's for a strong reason, and that is because I'm aware that my brain processing speed is somehow slow. I'm very aware of this weakness and limitation of mine (slow processing speed). I'm only 25 years old, and this issue totally humiliates me, and it makes me feel like an old person with alzheimer. I do well in other areas of life, have a very good job, and can do other daily tasks normally. In university, I studied Computer Science, and graduated first in my class, but I just don't understand why my brain seems to be slow and clumsy when it comes to driving?!
FYI, here in Canada (Ontario), we have what's called graduated licencing. First, I passed my written driving exam in year 2000. Then I passed my basic road test in 2003, and finally my final road test (that includes basic road test + freeway), I passed in 2005. I only drive occasionaly, due to my "fear", and it bothers me, and I would like to change that. I've never been in an accident (thankfully), although there were a few close calls.
As I mentioned previously, my fear exists because I am aware that my brain doesn't think super quickly. In other words, in stressful situations, my mind just totally freezes. And I know that frozen mind is dangerous, and that's why it scares me, which is why I don't drive unless absolutely necessary. When I am driving, I don't listen to music, and I always warn any passengers to keep quiet, and I also tell them never to talk to me, since I want my concentration. I take driving extremely seriously, and I don't want to injure myself or others, which is why I take such extreme measures.
I'm aware that some people are afraid of driving on bridges; however, I don't have such fear. Provided that I drive within normal speed (say, 50 to 60 km/h), driving on bridges doesn't scare me at all, since it doesn't involve super quick thinking.
My biggest issues are driving in freeways, especially if they are full of cars. Very often, when entering or exiting a freeway, we have to make very rapid decisions, and that's when I get nervous.....that's when my brain seems to just freeze, and it just freaks me out when I have to switch lanes that quickly.
If the freeway is something that I've never been to (i.e: totally unfamiliar), I feel even more fearful, because my mind has to pay attention to many things at once (i.e: reading the freeway signs constantly to make sure I'm going the right way, while making sure to be on the correct exit lane, while making sure to pay attention to other cars around me), and these make me really nervous.
Well hopefully I've provided enough details. Basically, I'm just wondering if you think your program could help someone like me?
Just to clarify once again: I don't fear the act of driving itself. When driving, my hand-palms never sweat, my breathing is normal, and I don't get cold chills. I just fear the danger that could happen as a result of my slow/frozen mind.
I would really appreciate your help! I'm on the verge of terminating my car lease now, simply because all of the above, and this is absolutely embarrassing! :oops:
I've been severely annoyed by my "fear" of driving, and was Googling for some info on being a better driver, and came accross this forum and your course. I'm very interested in buying your program, but before that, I have a question that I would like to ask you, just to make sure if the program is right for me.
Having read many articles about fear of driving, I feel that most people fear it really because they fear it, in a more psychological way. However, somehow I feel that mine is a little different. Yes, I do fear driving, but that's for a strong reason, and that is because I'm aware that my brain processing speed is somehow slow. I'm very aware of this weakness and limitation of mine (slow processing speed). I'm only 25 years old, and this issue totally humiliates me, and it makes me feel like an old person with alzheimer. I do well in other areas of life, have a very good job, and can do other daily tasks normally. In university, I studied Computer Science, and graduated first in my class, but I just don't understand why my brain seems to be slow and clumsy when it comes to driving?!
FYI, here in Canada (Ontario), we have what's called graduated licencing. First, I passed my written driving exam in year 2000. Then I passed my basic road test in 2003, and finally my final road test (that includes basic road test + freeway), I passed in 2005. I only drive occasionaly, due to my "fear", and it bothers me, and I would like to change that. I've never been in an accident (thankfully), although there were a few close calls.
As I mentioned previously, my fear exists because I am aware that my brain doesn't think super quickly. In other words, in stressful situations, my mind just totally freezes. And I know that frozen mind is dangerous, and that's why it scares me, which is why I don't drive unless absolutely necessary. When I am driving, I don't listen to music, and I always warn any passengers to keep quiet, and I also tell them never to talk to me, since I want my concentration. I take driving extremely seriously, and I don't want to injure myself or others, which is why I take such extreme measures.
I'm aware that some people are afraid of driving on bridges; however, I don't have such fear. Provided that I drive within normal speed (say, 50 to 60 km/h), driving on bridges doesn't scare me at all, since it doesn't involve super quick thinking.
My biggest issues are driving in freeways, especially if they are full of cars. Very often, when entering or exiting a freeway, we have to make very rapid decisions, and that's when I get nervous.....that's when my brain seems to just freeze, and it just freaks me out when I have to switch lanes that quickly.
If the freeway is something that I've never been to (i.e: totally unfamiliar), I feel even more fearful, because my mind has to pay attention to many things at once (i.e: reading the freeway signs constantly to make sure I'm going the right way, while making sure to be on the correct exit lane, while making sure to pay attention to other cars around me), and these make me really nervous.
Well hopefully I've provided enough details. Basically, I'm just wondering if you think your program could help someone like me?
Just to clarify once again: I don't fear the act of driving itself. When driving, my hand-palms never sweat, my breathing is normal, and I don't get cold chills. I just fear the danger that could happen as a result of my slow/frozen mind.
I would really appreciate your help! I'm on the verge of terminating my car lease now, simply because all of the above, and this is absolutely embarrassing! :oops: